
December 2016 – Mindo Ecuador – End of School Event for the Holiday Break
(Ecuador) – About year ago when my friend Barbara was visiting, we drove to town once or twice each week, checked internet, bought supplies then returned to my friends’ Rio Cinto property. We opened pages of interest while on the internet and then read them offline when time permitted. In the serene first hours of the morning while sitting on the front deck, I sometimes broke the silence to read something of interest to her, or she read something to me. When I read the following (below), she listened patiently and then stated, “I’d like to have that read at my funeral. Who wrote that?”

Rio Cinto/Mindo Ecuador – View from the deck
“I did,” I smiled, and told her that I’d written it while sick with dengue and chikungunya; though I did not fear I might be dying, these words tumbled out one day as if dictated by a higher source.
Most every time I pondered sharing this, someone died or there was a horrific disaster, and the timing seemed wrong. It seems like the right time, and I look forward to your feedback. Lisa

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RIP
“For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun? And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.” Kahlil Gibran
Rest in Peace… A tribute opened with those RIP words, and I pondered that saying and quickly morphed to my own obituary and thought, May they say about me, ‘Soar! Fly with the birds! Go see all that you missed! Swirl high on invisible currents with the frigates then swoop into the dense canopies of the jungles and peer where no man has ventured before!’
No, I don’t think I’ll be resting on some idyllic hillock for eternity; look for me in every sunset, every flower that bursts into bloom, and every butterfly that inspects those same flowers.
At birth, we’re given a life. We don’t know how long we’ll have, but we assume we’ll live to be an old age. Life sometimes snatches that long life from the unsuspecting, through illness, accidents, freak acts of nature, war and through horrid crime. Some people think we’re here, we live, we die, end of story. Some think we’re on a multiple-journey and we learn and experience more with each trip; a review after death with ‘the Coach’ – that most likely would not include the question, ‘How much money did you accumulate?’ More likely it would involve a critique of what one did well and what was not done so well, with a possible option to return and evolve into a stronger soul…
Some think we have one life, and we earn that right to rest in peace or to endure eternity in suffering beyond human comprehension. I don’t think there’s a God who would be so unmerciful that one wouldn’t get a chance at redemption, though it’s hard for me to comprehend the truly evil souls that exist among us. Perhaps if I did, I might agree that they should be kept in Hell’s chambers for eternity.
Let’s ponder what others might say about us – no matter if we’ve just walked out the door to go home, or if we’ve taken our last breath of air. When we reflect on our lives, are we proud of our accomplishments, of what we squeezed out of our years?

Christmas after the earthquake – A grand two-story wooden home once presided over this site. (Jama Ecuador)

Planted with love, yet it leaped into Rio Jama after the earthquake…
Will we realize that some of our darkest moments turned out to be catalysts that made us stronger and more compassionate people? Will we regret that we didn’t spend more hours at work, or will we regret that we didn’t try to love and understand our fellow man? Will we regret that we didn’t take time to notice the hungry person, the lonely person or stop to acknowledge the dog or cat or even the canary in the cage?
There are people who seem to care more about the dog or cat or canary than they do their fellow man, but those people probably deserve more love and compassion than the kindest of individuals. We often allow our egos to control the quality of our days – most ‘issues’ are not issues if we remove the ego and ask ourselves, “…Is it kind? Is it necessary?
If not, let it be left unsaid.” -(Maltbie Davenport Babcock)
I also ask myself, “Will this be important tomorrow? Next week? Next month? Next year?”

Oh, to have few complaints!
“Let it go” is often the best choice. If the ego is truly not involved, it’s easy to ‘let it go.’

Peace one day…

Frustrations the next
Will we be proud of the times we replied with impatience, with snappy retorts to someone who bruised our egos or challenged our choices? Like Kahlil Gibran, I have learned to be grateful to life’s unkind teachers, to the people who taught me lessons in negative ways, to the hurdles I’ve cleared and the places I stumbled.
I am grateful to have witnessed those filled with venom and realize they’re striking at any reason to justify their anger, while their true reason for unhappiness lurks deep in the shadows of their soul. It’s easier to blame someone else than to look inward…
I think when I review my life, I’ll want to tour the earth and the stars and the universe, and perhaps I’ll want to return to planet earth, to pick up the ball and resume my interests – or new ones. Maybe I’ll see a planet with colors I’ve never experienced before, and I’ll want to chase the fish that fly through the atmosphere and swim with butterflies beneath the waters. I’ll beg to resume my path, and I’ll ask if I my wisdom can tag along on this trip!
I hope, I pray that when this life is finished, I will return to the sidelines and reflect on the role I played in this game of Life, and my Coach and teammates all say, “You stumbled, you fell, you kept going, you learned, you evolved, you helped others… You did well. Good Game!”
so beautiful. i needed this today. gracias
Hi Margo! Thank you, and I hope that the rest of your week falls in place.
Oh, yes, Lisa. Amen.
Thank you Sistah!
Nicely done, Lisa.
janet
Thank you Janet!
Lovely! My sister Brenda watches for the birds, as she believes that cardinals visit as the spirit of our mother. I’m going to share this with her. Thanks!
Thank you Cindy, and “Hi Brenda” as well! I definitely can understand seeing your mother’s spirit in the lovely cardinals, which reminds me of a true story I should share as a follow up post…
What an amazing, beautiful post!
Thank you Cindy!
I think that’s just what your coach will say! Well done to you 🙂 Such a beautiful sequence of thoughts and images. Self aware yet always reaching out to others. A happy afterlife, Lisa!
Hi, and thanks so much! Looks like you’ve had some nasty weather over there…
On it’s way to the UK, I think, Lisa. We are returning on Monday and I ‘can’t wait’ 😦
Beautifully said — and illustrated. Many thanks.
Thank you, Hugh….
Amin, Amen! Ho!
‘thank you!!
Well said! Lovely post, and thoughts to make one think. But I DO want to come back as a red squirrel! 🙂
Ha! That wish makes me smile!
Beautiful and humble as expected 🙂 I would give you a “GREAT game!” Amiga. Thanks for sharing this. Hugs from beautiful Cartagena 🙂
Hi over there! I see where a 5.5 rattled Colombia today! I hope that your trip is going well
Lisa, What profound thoughts you expressed through this post! This is a saver for sure. I need to reread this at least once a day! Many thanks for your friendship mi amiga.
‘thank you Amiga! Ha, I can thank dengue and chikungunya for coaxing these thoughts ….
Thank you, Lisa. It is really a blessing that we have been able to live long enough to learn some of life’s lessons. I tremble to think of standing before my “coach” had I passed away a young man – you know, back when I knew it all and freely expounded that wisdom to others. Better now to stand back and learn from all around me. Have a great 2017!
For some reason WordPress is not letting me “like” posts tonight. Please know we did!
Thank you! Yes, with age comes wisdom and patience…. It’s nice to know that our Coach is watching with unconditional love….
A great 2017 to both of you as well – and those chickens!
I really liked this, Lisa. I am of the philosophy that we know near the ends of our lives whether we have lived a good life or not. And good, to me, means kindness, sharing, loving.
Those who have lived for greed or crime or unkindness will feel that hell then and there, knowing they have no way to make up for all the ill they have done.
Those who have lived the good life will feel that heaven.
Thank you for this. Gives me much to think about.
thank you emilie, and yes, i feel that way too – we’ll know with sorrow the things that caused pain or distress in others, but we’ll also be privy to know the joy we gave others…
Thanks, Lisa, for this timeous and profound meditation for the New Year: it’s timeous for me because i am reflecting along the same lines as your good self. I love the Gibran quote – it’s an old friend. I think if we can feel reasonably ok about what we’ve been able to do with what talents were bestowed at the outset, taking due account of our limitations as well, then that’s pretty good…
Thank you, Anne, and it’s comforting to know that you align with a similar attitude. I think/hope that many will realize that we’re all in unique roles, and we should lighten up and not be too critical of one another.
It’s a good feeling to know that everything is finally ‘moving forward’ now – perhaps no more glitches for a while!
It takes … what? plucky moxie with tearful compassion? … to take on The Big Questions with gentle candor and have unashamed vulnerability seep through, too.
Aside from that undertaking, when you started by quoting Gibran, I was hooked.
The thing that keeps hitting me in the forehead from the inside lately is that I truly have the power to consciously look at something fueling my anger, frustration, intolerance, contempt, etc. and tell myself, “Make it meaningless. Make it not matter.” Then do it. Sometimes I’m sane enough to use that magical power. In my view from beyond life, I’d like to be able to see that I learned to continually, increasingly, consciously diminish the importance of what does not matter.
How come the picture of the old man on the sidewalk grabbed me the most?
i’m glad that you liked the image of the old man. i was on the side street taking photos of a young man repairing the apt. roof, and i saw the man rounding the corner. another eccentric man was ‘up the street’ picking up debris and cleaning his section of the street.
it’s a subtle gift to master the challenges of being aware of things that make us angry while having the ability to view them from a neutral position —- and that helps to see a larger picture… sometimes.. and then there are times that it all flies out the window and we are left ‘recovering’ from an outburst or disgust…. and sometimes that it needed…. one person kindly pointed out that if for no other reason that to learn how to stand up to bullies or speak for those who have no voice…
thank you for your heart-felt comments.
Yep, clearly that awareness goes flat deaf, dumb and blind, even typically does so, in fact. But even Thich Nhat Hanh says that sometimes there is useful anger.
I forgot to mention: the “good game” for some people includes unselfishly using their talents to leave the world more beautiful than they found it through art, like yours.
thank you!
Such beautiful sentiments Lisa! I am still in the process of learning to let go…getting there slowly but surely. Have no doubt your coach will deliver a verdict to be proud of. Your game belongs in the super league dear friend 🙂
You, my dear lovely and kind Amiga, are in that super league! You touch so many with your posts that share the love you have for your world and culture. Most special to me are those posts that take us back to your earlier days — ah, sometimes i think that despite the advances in technology, we haven’t evolved much as a species… it’s as if those new gadgets have taken away our gifts….
May this year smile on you —- you deserve it!
Beautifully said, great pics, too!
Thank you!
“More likely it would involve a critique of what one did well and what was not done so well, with a possible option to return and evolve into a stronger soul…”
Hindus and Buddhists believe not just that a return is an option but that many returns are required because it takes a long time and different roles for a soul to attain an improved state.
Si.. I am ‘hard headed’ enough to grasp that concept from my own unique way — to have that side-line chat with coach and beg to be sent back, “I know, I know, I know Coach, but this next time I’ll get it right! Put me back in the game – Pronto!’
Thanks Steve!
The bird outing went well, and there were some very poor photos but good enough to identify the random little yellow bird, and also some good photos of hummingbirds. There are so many hummers here!
Speaking of which, I can’t remember if we’ve discussed Martin Johnson Heade’s paintings of hummingbirds. Are you familiar with them? It seems like every large art museum I go to has at least one.
No, I am not familiar, but wow, what delicate and unique studies! thanks for the link, which sent me on many tangents to see the images in larger format!
The first Heade nature paintings I remember seeing are in the Amon Carter Museum in Fort Worth, including this one:
http://www.cartermuseum.org/artworks/12922
It’s good that you got to see some of Heade’s paintings in larger online versions.
After reading your post, I put some salmon in the oven, and then clicked over to Twitter for a quick glance before sitting down to reply. I noticed that #ButThereWillBeCake was trending, and of course it made me curious. Here’s the first tweet I found:
Me: I’m planning my funeral, just in case. Will you come?
Friend: Meh, I’m good.
Me: #ButThereWillBeCake
Friend: I’m in!
Of course it made me laugh, and it made me feel somewhat better about my lack of seriousness about these things. It’s not that I don’t take death seriously, of course, but I don’t take it nearly as seriously as I used to. Or, to be more precise, I think about it much less. I’ve been wandering around the house trying to figure out why that is, and I came up with two reasons. There may be more that I’m not aware of, but these will do for now.
Several years ago, I came across an aphorism that was offered without any attribution. It read, “The important question isn’t whether there’s life after death. The important question is whether there’s life before death.” I’ve seen it attributed to everyone from Norman Vincent Peale to Osho, but it struck a chord. In fact, it seemed self-evidently true, so I tucked it away for future reference.
Still, there’s that nagging question: what does come after? In truth, I haven’t the slightest idea. Reincarnation doesn’t feel particularly congenial. The thought of simply disappearing into the void gives me vertigo. Resurrection of the body is a wonderful metaphor, but probably difficult to pull off: where to put all those people? And that whole sheep-and-goats thing seems unnecessarily human. Dividing people up is what we do.
So, a while back, I came to this: the point of the last judgment isn’t that God’s going to throw some in a pit of fire and hand others a harp. It’s that the lastjudgment — that is, the end of judgment, will be in God’s hands. What others think of us, or what we think of ourselves, won’t matter. That’s a rather nice thought, especially since I tend to think of the divine as merciful. Whatever happens, or doesn’t at the end, will be out of my hands anyway, so why worry? Just live, and love, and be merciful to others.
Hmmmm…. I sort of ran on there, didn’t I? Well, that’s what a lovely, introspective post can do. This was a good one, Lisa — thanks for sharing your thoughts.
You ‘got me’ twice with an unexpected laugh… Perhaps I’ll do a painting of a Blue Crawdad caught in a spiral, and the title might be ” The thought of simply disappearing into the void gives me vertigo.”
Thank you for your feedback; we both have so many interests that there’s no time to dwell on ‘nonsense’ or things we have no control over… it’s what we can squeeze out of each day.
For now, I’d best get some sleep, as tomorrow’s dance card is extremely full!
PS… I remember reading long ago a story about Thoreau as he was dying.. The story said that someone asked if he wanted to make peace with God, and he replied, “I wasn’t aware that we had quarreled.”
Have you ever heard that one? I’ve tried finding it but have not had any luck…..
I’ll see if I can get the Quote Investigator to confirm it — or source it.
Thanks for reflecting upon what is really important and for sharing the beautiful bird photos. I have just started a poetry blog here on WordPress in case you have time to have a look? Have a good day, Sam 🙂
Beautiful thoughts, beautiful pictures, beautiful art, all coming from a beautiful very beautiful pearson.
every day is the best day for art
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